Mennonite Church USA column

I thank my God every time I remember you, constantly praying with joy in every one of my prayers for all of you.—Philippians 1:3

There are moments in our lives that leave indelible marks on us. And there are people in those moments whose encouraging words shape us far beyond what we could imagine.

Esther was one of those people for me. A quiet, respected leader in my home congregation, Esther took on countless congregational tasks, many often unseen by other members. Her words, at a time when I was searching to understand what it means to follow Jesus, had a profound impact on my call to ministry in the church.

Esther’s words made a difference.

Growing up in the Neffsville congregation in Lancaster, Pa., I felt affirmation from my congregation. Young people regularly participated in worship, and the church gave priority to providing leadership for youth groups and youth events.

During my early high school years, I was one of those students who felt more comfortable in the background. But in my junior year, I discovered drama and had the lead role in the junior class school play. I enjoyed theater and my experiences on stage. Even more importantly, theater gave me opportunities for new relationships and led me to feel greater acceptance of my peers.

About that time Esther agreed to lead our congregation’s Christmas program, which featured our children and youth. That year the pageant included long dramatic segments, and Esther asked me to take the lead role. Knowing I could act, Esther asked me to use my newly found talents for the good of our congregation.

I remember little about that particular Christmas pageant at church. What I do remember is the letter Esther sent me afterward—a letter I still have in my possession. In it, Esther encouraged me, actually admonished me, to use my gifts for the building up of the church.

For years now I have linked that single experience, that one act of affirmation, with my strong commitment to use my gifts and skills to nurture the church and God’s people. That letter has served as a source for my personal ministry.

You know Esthers. Many of you have experienced Esthers in your own lives and in your own churches. These folks have encouraged you to use your gifts for God’s purposes. These folks send you notes of encouragement or go out of their way to tell you they are praying for you and are supporting you as you follow God’s call.

The Apostle Paul puts it this way to the church at Philippi when he gives them a double blessing of grace and peace: “I thank God for you every time I remember you. … The one who began a good work among you will bring it to completion. … And this is my prayer, that your love may overflow” (Philippians 1:3, 6, 9).

In Mennonite Church USA, one of our four missional church priorities is leadership development—the calling, training and nurturing of all our members, including our youth, to use their leadership gifts to extend God’s witness in the world.

I thank God for Esther, for Paul and for the many others like them in our congregations and in the broader church. May their affirmation guide us to offer words of encouragement to others.

Just a few words can make a lifetime of difference.

Ron Byler is interim executive director of Mennonite Church USA.