When I read the headline “Have Babies Young!” (column by Sarah Kehrberg, Sep­tember), I thought it was a joke. While she made a good point about it being time for the “mommy wars” of stay-at-home and workplace to end, I was shocked at the premise of pushing our daughters to have kids in their 20s. Having been married at 30 and giving birth at 33 and 35, I would not change my choices and the example I’ve set for establishing a career, volunteering and being able to be a fully engaged parent by having kids in my 30s.

I would not dream of telling my college-educated daughter to “hurry up and get mar­ried to have babies.” Let’s not go back in time. With childcare options evaporating and the odds stacked against single parents, do we really want to push people to have children when they are not ready? I’ll advocate for our adult children to build their lives on their own time frames.

Kenda Resler Friend, Indianapolis