This article was originally published by Mennonite World Review

The future (Mennonite) church

I’ve been told to come to the Mennonite Church USA Future Church Summit with a smile, ready to make new friends. And I will.

I basically smile all the time anyway; that’s just how my face looks. Honestly, I have to try hard to not smile at inappropriate times like funerals or public scoldings.

Also, I like friends and am happy to make new ones.

So I will bring my friendly smile to the Summit. I will also bring my deep longings for the future of my church: that we might be a truly inclusive, Christ-centered, joy-filled, community of faith.

If you know me at all, you will not be surprised to learn that I have A LOT of ideas for the future of our church. And I could list any number of policy (and staffing) recommendations that I think would move us toward a more faithful future. But I won’t go into those here. (If you’re lucky enough to be at my table during the FCS, you might get to hear some of them. Though, in addition to being told to smile, participants have also been instructed to listen more and talk less. So I will, as always, try to follow the rules.)

Rather than addressing specifics, I want to address two pervasive denominational frameworks that prevent us from truly moving forward.

Framework #1: False Equivalencies of Harm

The current narrative from denominational leaders is that the harm done to two particular groups of people in the church is equivalent:

  • People who hold “traditional” views of sexuality and marriage are harmed when people disagree with their theology, when people tell them they are wrong, when they have to be church with LGBTQ people and their allies.
  • LGBTQ people are harmed when they are denied full inclusion in the church, when they must defend themselves and their relationships if they want to participate in the church at all, when they are told that part of their essential identity is unacceptable to God.

Please look over these two lists again and hear me very clearly: These harms are not equal.

I had a conversation several years ago with conservative pastors who told me that their young people didn’t feel “safe” at Mennonite colleges. They were “not safe” because they might have professors who presented views different from what their church had taught them; because there might be actual gay people on campus; because some other students might challenge them on or even become angry with them about their views on sexuality. So they did not feel “safe.”

But when LGBTQ people say they do not feel “safe” in Mennonite spaces, it means that they fear being stalked, harassed, humiliated, excluded and possibly even physically assaulted. These are all experiences that queer people have had in Mennonite spaces. We’re talking about two very different kinds of “safety.” Two very different kinds of harm.

Most recently, we see this false equivalency implied in the recent Executive Board statement regarding the suspension of Doug Basinger’s appointment to the Leadership Discernment Committee:

Most of the EB members learned of the nominee’s sexual orientation and marital status some days after the board meeting. Because of its care for the nominee as well as the whole church, the board carefully weighed the options for dealing with this controversial matter.

Do you hear that? The board considers the harm done to conservative Mennonites who would learn that a gay person is on a denominational committee to bear equal weight with the harm done to Basinger himself and all other LGBTQ people when denominational leadership rejects the clearly evident gifts being offered for the service of the church.

If we want to move forward as a church, we cannot continue to present these false equivalencies of harm. We have to be willing to truly evaluate and repent of the deep harm we have done and continue to do with our anti-LGBTQ teachings, attitudes and policies.

Framework #2: Everyone Must be Happy

While I do believe that Basinger and other LGBTQ Mennonites are the people most deeply harmed by the recent board actions, I understand that harm has also been done to some people on the Executive Board. The painful situation of Basinger’s appointment and subsequent suspension is partially a result of the desire of MC USA leaders to keep everyone happy.

Because of this desire for happiness — sometimes explicitly stated as a desire to not offend anyone — the denomination does not have a formal policy banning LGBTQ people from serving on MC USA committees. But they also have never appointed an out LGBTQ Mennonite to any committees.

So inclusive folks should be happy because there’s no prohibitive policy. And traditionalist folks should be happy because there are no actual gay people serving at the national level.

Setting aside the significant theological problems of this approach — especially for Anabaptists — let’s focus here on the hot mess our denomination has become as a result of this particular leadership strategy.

Basinger’s appointment and suspension is just one example.

  • Because there is no formal policy against LGBTQ people serving the church, and because (I assume) board members do not generally specify information about nominees’ sex lives when presenting them for consideration, some board members believe there was no requirement to mention the fact that Basinger is gay when he was originally nominated and approved for the Leadership Discernment Committee.
  • Because we still have language in the Confession of Faith and Membership Guidelines that indicates a denominational stance against homosexuality, and because no person identifying as LGBTQ has ever been appointed to an MC USA committee, some board members believe that Basinger should have been specifically identified as gay when he was nominated.

Based on the messages we receive from denominational leadership, both groups of people are right. And now it’s all a hot, oppressive mess.

We’ve seen this same strategy fail miserably before — when MC USA leadership introduced the Membership Guidelines resolution in Kansas City in an attempt to mitigate the “damage” of the Forbearance resolution and appease conservatives. This resulted in an emotionally and spiritually traumatic experience for many LGBTQ Mennonites, some of whom have left the denomination entirely and many of whom cannot bear another convention.

And — you all might remember this — Lancaster Conference left the denomination anyway.

We see leadership struggling with this “make everyone happy” strategy as it applies to processing Ministerial Leadership Information forms. So now they have created a system that I know does not make inclusive folks happy. And I doubt traditionalists are very happy about it, either.

That’s the problem. When you try to make everyone happy, you often end up making nobody happy. And a lot of people angry and alienated.

More importantly, when your goal becomes making everybody happy, you become obsessed with walking a very thin (probably non-existent) line. You start to believe that avoiding offense is the same thing as being faithful to Jesus Christ. (Spoiler alert for those who haven’t read the Gospels: It’s not.)

Joanna Harader is pastor of Peace Mennonite Church in Lawrence, Kan. She blogs at, where this first appeared.

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